Q: So we dated for four years, then he popped the question. We were engaged about 6 months... just long enough to book the hall, and the caterer and find a dress. Everything seemed to be going fine. I had just graduated from college and started me new job. One day out of the blue he called us said we, "needed" to talk and then called it off with no warning. Its been about 4 months and he keeps alternating back and forth between, "oh my god I cant believe I let you go, give me another chance" and, "I dont think we should talk anymore". And he says things like, "I am not secure enought with myself, I wouldnt be ok if my wife made more money then me".How many chances is too many? Did he do it because I now have a good job and he's still not through school? How do you let someone go who you had imagined a future with? How do you start dating again (note* I have had one date in this 4 months... yes thats right only one).
A: So sorry about all that. Sounds terrible!
You should try your hardest to move on. I know it’s so much easier said than done, but you have to try your hardest. If he wants you bad enough, he’ll come back for keeps eventually, but you definitely shouldn’t wait around. He has serious doubts and you deserve better.
As for dating, hit the websites. Match.com, eharmony.com, etc. It’s a great way to get acclimated and take it slowly. You can chat anonymously so it’s less scary and when you’re comfortable, you’ll accept a date. Accept as many as you can to get back into dating life. The more practice, the better.
Eventually, you’ll be able to go on dates without thinking of your ex too much. Don’t stress if it takes a little while. Just keep going at it and you’ll fall in love all over again.
Let me know what you think!
Love the Madness,
DG
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