Q: I've met a girl through a close friend of mine. I'm very into climbing and she has been anxious to learn so that's where the introduction came from. She has been climbing w/ my group of buddies at the gym and out on local crags quite a bit over the past several weeks. I've gone out to eat w/ her, hung out w/ her and her friends, out to bars... that sort of stuff. I love being around her and think she is the most adorable creature I can imagine. That's where part of the problem comes in... I dig this girl so much that I get all geeked up talking to her. I'm having a hard time seeing if she's opening the door for me to flirt w/ her or not... so I usually don't. Also, she can be pretty shy which makes it really hard to tell if she's interested and not doing anything about it (like me) or just not so interested and sees me as a pal. I know that I should just be open w/ her about how I feel but I'm also worried that if she doesn't see me as potential "more than friends" that the friendship we've been building could be put in jeopardy as well. It's hard to judge the risk involved because I'm so hopeful about how things could be. Can you think of a good way to explore her feelings about me w/o too much risk of her suddenly seeing me as a predator instead of a friend if she's not interested in that way?
A: You have to go in with the half joke and see if she responds. “We would make such a good couple! We should go on a date sometime.”
If she laughs it off and walks away, you don’t have to go on. If she responds with a, “Yeah, we should!” or “All you have to do is ask,” then you’ve got something! The key is: if she does the latter, then you have to set something up right then and there. You can’t let time get between that joke and you setting the date. So right then and there say, “Really?! Are you free this weekend?”
Hope that helps.
Love the Madness,
DG
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