Shout out to Bev. Happy Bday!!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Monday, April 30, 2007
Sunday, April 29, 2007
Q: Hey DG how is Life? things are going great here. Im actually getting married soon and I was hoping to get the new wifey some Moose Jaw gear! Any advice? I dont know much about shopping for chicks.
A: For the wifey, get any of the following. They’re awesome!!
Moosejaw Women's Madison Tee
Moosejaw Women's Nigel Tank
Moosejaw Women's Morty Tee Shirt
Moosejaw Women's Capri Pant
They're all my faves!!
Love the Madness,
DG
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A: For the wifey, get any of the following. They’re awesome!!
Moosejaw Women's Madison Tee
Moosejaw Women's Nigel Tank
Moosejaw Women's Morty Tee Shirt
Moosejaw Women's Capri Pant
They're all my faves!!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Saturday, April 28, 2007
Q: ok, so i am in a real rut...i have been dating my girlfriend for just over one and half years, we are from the same home town and are the same age, but only meet in college. throughout the entire relationship, my parents have had trouble accepting her. I love her with my entire self, but it is straining on our relationship to have my parents disapproval. it is very complicated because my parents refuse to acknowledge that we have anything valid to say or the reason to make a decision. we have both been terribly degraded by my parents. My parents are supportive in many ways, but not having them in this department is killing me and driving my girlfriend away from me. how can i help this? it is not one or the other for me, but it seems like my parents and even my gf are making it that way? i need to address this! thanks so much
A: First question – why don’t they like her? Have they liked your girlfriends in the past or are they always this way?
In any case, neither side should make you choose. That’s just not fair to you and will end up tearing everyone apart.
You should sit down with your parents and have a mature conversation about it. Don’t get defensive or argumentative or threatening; just talk it out and tell them how hard it is for you to not have their support on this one.
Let me know about my questions!
Love the Madness,
DG
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A: First question – why don’t they like her? Have they liked your girlfriends in the past or are they always this way?
In any case, neither side should make you choose. That’s just not fair to you and will end up tearing everyone apart.
You should sit down with your parents and have a mature conversation about it. Don’t get defensive or argumentative or threatening; just talk it out and tell them how hard it is for you to not have their support on this one.
Let me know about my questions!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Friday, April 27, 2007
Q: I have feelings for a guy from another culture. I know his family traditions are really important to him. I don't know if he is allowed or wants to date people from outside his culture, and his parents may have already arranged a marriage for him (I don't have much evidence to go on here though). Is there a tactful way to find out about his cultural obligations without accidentily offending him? Do I attempt to ask this person out or is it too far fetched (I REALLY like him)?
A: Hmm…
You can do 1 of 2 things.
You can get flirty with him and give signals that say, “Ask me out!” and then wait patiently.
Or you can ask him out and see what happens.
I don’t love asking him about the culture, etc. I don’t know the whole story, but it may seem presumptuous.
If you are already flirty, and it’s not going anywhere, then get bold and ask him out to dinner. Only prob is that he could think it’s a friendly dinner. You need to set the tone so he gets that it’s a date. Also, give him an easy out so he doesn’t have to think of an excuse too quickly if he’s not into it. That’d just be awkward for everyone.
Let me know what you think!
Love the Madness,
DG
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A: Hmm…
You can do 1 of 2 things.
You can get flirty with him and give signals that say, “Ask me out!” and then wait patiently.
Or you can ask him out and see what happens.
I don’t love asking him about the culture, etc. I don’t know the whole story, but it may seem presumptuous.
If you are already flirty, and it’s not going anywhere, then get bold and ask him out to dinner. Only prob is that he could think it’s a friendly dinner. You need to set the tone so he gets that it’s a date. Also, give him an easy out so he doesn’t have to think of an excuse too quickly if he’s not into it. That’d just be awkward for everyone.
Let me know what you think!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Thursday, April 26, 2007
Q: I've been out with this girl a couple times and I actually like her alot. The dates have gone well, we share common interests and we've have a good chemistry together.
Here's my issue.. Since the last time I saw her she hasn't shown much interest - didn't return a phone call last week until I called her again a few days later, didn't return text past weekend. Previously she'd call me right back if she was unavailable. I attribute some of it to it being crunch time in school and her being busy, but really if you like someone, how much time does it take to return a text.
We have made plans to get together the next time she's back and she alludes to future things we can do this summer when we talk so I'd assume she doesn't hate me. If she is interested she'll eventually call once things calm down schedule wise.
So what's your take?? Just busy or not interested?? And should I just give her space for the next few weeks? I've been dating other girls as well but I'd like to see things workout with this one!
A: I’d lay low for a few days and see what happens. If she doesn’t contact you, you could give it one more chance and call her Thurs night.
If she’s into it, this is her last chance to show it. If she doesn’t respond, you’re done!
This is what I call Operation One-More-Chance.
Good luck and email with the update!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Here's my issue.. Since the last time I saw her she hasn't shown much interest - didn't return a phone call last week until I called her again a few days later, didn't return text past weekend. Previously she'd call me right back if she was unavailable. I attribute some of it to it being crunch time in school and her being busy, but really if you like someone, how much time does it take to return a text.
We have made plans to get together the next time she's back and she alludes to future things we can do this summer when we talk so I'd assume she doesn't hate me. If she is interested she'll eventually call once things calm down schedule wise.
So what's your take?? Just busy or not interested?? And should I just give her space for the next few weeks? I've been dating other girls as well but I'd like to see things workout with this one!
A: I’d lay low for a few days and see what happens. If she doesn’t contact you, you could give it one more chance and call her Thurs night.
If she’s into it, this is her last chance to show it. If she doesn’t respond, you’re done!
This is what I call Operation One-More-Chance.
Good luck and email with the update!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Wednesday, April 25, 2007
Q: I've met a girl through a close friend of mine. I'm very into climbing and she has been anxious to learn so that's where the introduction came from. She has been climbing w/ my group of buddies at the gym and out on local crags quite a bit over the past several weeks. I've gone out to eat w/ her, hung out w/ her and her friends, out to bars... that sort of stuff. I love being around her and think she is the most adorable creature I can imagine. That's where part of the problem comes in... I dig this girl so much that I get all geeked up talking to her. I'm having a hard time seeing if she's opening the door for me to flirt w/ her or not... so I usually don't. Also, she can be pretty shy which makes it really hard to tell if she's interested and not doing anything about it (like me) or just not so interested and sees me as a pal. I know that I should just be open w/ her about how I feel but I'm also worried that if she doesn't see me as potential "more than friends" that the friendship we've been building could be put in jeopardy as well. It's hard to judge the risk involved because I'm so hopeful about how things could be. Can you think of a good way to explore her feelings about me w/o too much risk of her suddenly seeing me as a predator instead of a friend if she's not interested in that way?
A: You have to go in with the half joke and see if she responds. “We would make such a good couple! We should go on a date sometime.”
If she laughs it off and walks away, you don’t have to go on. If she responds with a, “Yeah, we should!” or “All you have to do is ask,” then you’ve got something! The key is: if she does the latter, then you have to set something up right then and there. You can’t let time get between that joke and you setting the date. So right then and there say, “Really?! Are you free this weekend?”
Hope that helps.
Love the Madness,
DG
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A: You have to go in with the half joke and see if she responds. “We would make such a good couple! We should go on a date sometime.”
If she laughs it off and walks away, you don’t have to go on. If she responds with a, “Yeah, we should!” or “All you have to do is ask,” then you’ve got something! The key is: if she does the latter, then you have to set something up right then and there. You can’t let time get between that joke and you setting the date. So right then and there say, “Really?! Are you free this weekend?”
Hope that helps.
Love the Madness,
DG
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Tuesday, April 24, 2007
Q: Dear DG,
I was snooping on the boyfriend's myspace page and saw that he sent a message to his exGF. So, I had to read it... it was a short message, but he said, "You're still soo beautiful". Totally unnecessary! Yes, she's beautiful, but he should not be saying that I don't think. BUT, I wouldn't know this if i wasn't sneaking around in his myspace sent box (which he left open on my computer). i know he's way way over her. hasn't talked to her in 5 years or more, and he loves me, but why would he write that, and, am I allowed to ask? I know, I shouldn't have been snooping...this is what i get.
Thanks, you're so great!
Wow. Toughie!!
A: It'll eat you up inside if you don't say something but go at it lightly or he'll just get defensive. Say, 'You left this open on my computer. I know I shouldn't have looked, but I did and I saw this so I have to ask about it. I love you and I know you love me but I have to ask.'
How's that sound?
Keep me posted on this one!!
Love the Madness,
DG
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I was snooping on the boyfriend's myspace page and saw that he sent a message to his exGF. So, I had to read it... it was a short message, but he said, "You're still soo beautiful". Totally unnecessary! Yes, she's beautiful, but he should not be saying that I don't think. BUT, I wouldn't know this if i wasn't sneaking around in his myspace sent box (which he left open on my computer). i know he's way way over her. hasn't talked to her in 5 years or more, and he loves me, but why would he write that, and, am I allowed to ask? I know, I shouldn't have been snooping...this is what i get.
Thanks, you're so great!
Wow. Toughie!!
A: It'll eat you up inside if you don't say something but go at it lightly or he'll just get defensive. Say, 'You left this open on my computer. I know I shouldn't have looked, but I did and I saw this so I have to ask about it. I love you and I know you love me but I have to ask.'
How's that sound?
Keep me posted on this one!!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Monday, April 23, 2007
Q: Hi DG, i'm a long time listener; first time caller. (sorry, i've always wanted to say that...)
I've always heard how awesome you are, so i've decided to try you out. in a completely platonic way of course, please don't arrest me. here we go:
I dated a girl for a while this summer, but all of a sudden she told me that she can't do it anymore because she has no confidence in herself around me and thinks i'm going to drop her for the next interesting girl that walks by. she said she's driving herself crazy dreading each day because maybe that's the day i leave. she really is a very confident person, but she says because i have been to a lot of places and done a lot of stuff (and she says she hasn't) she thinks i wont like her and stay with her. she says i deserve better. she wont believe any of my arguements to the contrary. at first i thought it was just an innovative excuse to drop me because maybe i smell bad or something, but the more i talked to her, the more i believed it was real. any suggestions?
Thanks so much, you're the best - i owe you one. or two. yeah, probably two.
A: The real problem here is that she doesn’t trust you. She doesn’t trust that you’re that into her. She doesn’t trust that you’re not looking at other girls. She doesn’t trust the relationship.
Has she been hurt in the past? Either way, you really need to reassure her. Not with words, but with actions. You should want to see her a lot. You should want to call her a lot. You should miss her during the day when you don’t talk or see her.
You should touch a lot when you’re with her. Play with her hair, rub her back, etc.
Show her how much you really like her.
If she’s confident in you, she’ll be confident in herself.
Love the Madness,
DG
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I've always heard how awesome you are, so i've decided to try you out. in a completely platonic way of course, please don't arrest me. here we go:
I dated a girl for a while this summer, but all of a sudden she told me that she can't do it anymore because she has no confidence in herself around me and thinks i'm going to drop her for the next interesting girl that walks by. she said she's driving herself crazy dreading each day because maybe that's the day i leave. she really is a very confident person, but she says because i have been to a lot of places and done a lot of stuff (and she says she hasn't) she thinks i wont like her and stay with her. she says i deserve better. she wont believe any of my arguements to the contrary. at first i thought it was just an innovative excuse to drop me because maybe i smell bad or something, but the more i talked to her, the more i believed it was real. any suggestions?
Thanks so much, you're the best - i owe you one. or two. yeah, probably two.
A: The real problem here is that she doesn’t trust you. She doesn’t trust that you’re that into her. She doesn’t trust that you’re not looking at other girls. She doesn’t trust the relationship.
Has she been hurt in the past? Either way, you really need to reassure her. Not with words, but with actions. You should want to see her a lot. You should want to call her a lot. You should miss her during the day when you don’t talk or see her.
You should touch a lot when you’re with her. Play with her hair, rub her back, etc.
Show her how much you really like her.
If she’s confident in you, she’ll be confident in herself.
Love the Madness,
DG
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Sunday, April 22, 2007
Q: Dear Dg,
Here I am, what I would consider a good guy, I don't drink, smoke or eat junk food. Take life and people seriously, travel a lot for my work, exercise all the time, trek in the mountains when I can, been to Alaska and the Tetons this year, don't do the bars and I'm not party person. So how can I come across a suitable, female, hiking companion?
A:You should hang out at bookstores, coffee shops, dog parks, the gym, etc to find her. Also try online like match.com and see what that has to offer. Online is great because you can pick a girl who has similar interests and get to know her a little online before committing to too much!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Here I am, what I would consider a good guy, I don't drink, smoke or eat junk food. Take life and people seriously, travel a lot for my work, exercise all the time, trek in the mountains when I can, been to Alaska and the Tetons this year, don't do the bars and I'm not party person. So how can I come across a suitable, female, hiking companion?
A:You should hang out at bookstores, coffee shops, dog parks, the gym, etc to find her. Also try online like match.com and see what that has to offer. Online is great because you can pick a girl who has similar interests and get to know her a little online before committing to too much!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Saturday, April 21, 2007
Q: Dear Dg,
How do I deal with my man living in another state and never being able to talk to him?
A: Lots of frequent flyer miles. Lots of phone calls, letters, emails, texts. Surprises are always fun! Send presents and love letters!
It’s really hard. Trust, respect and visits are definitely key.
You can do it! Take it day by day.
Love the Madness,
DG
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How do I deal with my man living in another state and never being able to talk to him?
A: Lots of frequent flyer miles. Lots of phone calls, letters, emails, texts. Surprises are always fun! Send presents and love letters!
It’s really hard. Trust, respect and visits are definitely key.
You can do it! Take it day by day.
Love the Madness,
DG
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Friday, April 20, 2007
Q: Dear Dg,
So there's this boy I have been hooking up with a good amount, and I kind of like him, but I'm not sure if he likes me. And I know he doesn't really like anyone else. How do I approach this?
A: Keep up the flirting. Try to have plans a lot. Make eye contact from across the room for a second longer than you may otherwise. Touch his arm when you get a chance - just in conversation. Laugh at his jokes.
Hopefully he'll get the hint!
Let me know how it goes.
Love the Madness,
DG
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So there's this boy I have been hooking up with a good amount, and I kind of like him, but I'm not sure if he likes me. And I know he doesn't really like anyone else. How do I approach this?
A: Keep up the flirting. Try to have plans a lot. Make eye contact from across the room for a second longer than you may otherwise. Touch his arm when you get a chance - just in conversation. Laugh at his jokes.
Hopefully he'll get the hint!
Let me know how it goes.
Love the Madness,
DG
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Thursday, April 19, 2007
Q: Dear Dg,
I met a girl from another country in drawing class. I asked her out, and she said yes. We were out with my friends , and after a few beers and shots, we ended up kissing each other. We have been hanging out a lot lately, since this has happened, which was about two months ago. She is here because of circumstance, and she never wanted to move here, and she has been here about a year. She misses her friends and her family back home, and wants to move back to go to school next year. she has very few friends in this town, which makes the situation more difficult. I like her a lot, but she has told me that she has a boyfriend back home, and that she loves him, and she intends the carry on the long-distance thing as well as she can. She has also told me that I am important in her life, and she does not know what to do about the situation. I don't know what's going to happen when she visits Chile for 2 moths during the summer, or whether or not she will tell her boyfriend all this that has happened. I am scared that all my actions will lead to nowhere, but I feel I need to let her know how much I like her. I cherish every moment I spend with her, and that is why I really have not asked her about what she wishes to do, because it could potentially lead to her withdrawing from me. I know I deserve a fair answer, but I am also scared of losing her. Please Help..
A: Wow! You’re in a pickle!
She’s a taken woman. Does it bother you that if you date her, she may be off somewhere kissing another guy like she did with you? She has said that she has a bf and wants to stick with him so unless you convince her otherwise, you should back off. No one likes a disloyal girlfriend!!
Having said all that, she seems to like you and I can’t imagine the LD thing is really going to work out for her!
Here are your options:
You back off and see if she follows you.
You talk about the whole thing and hope you don’t push her away.
You go as is and see where the wind blows.
I like option 3. I know it’s hard but if you just stand in the sidelines until her other relationship fizzles, you’ve got the best chances. Plus you can be there to dust her off after the fall. But, don’t kiss her anymore! Just be the cool friend!
You could do option 2, but she seems committed to the LD guy and you may end up with nothing of her after a talk.
Let me know what you think!
Love the Madness,
DG
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I met a girl from another country in drawing class. I asked her out, and she said yes. We were out with my friends , and after a few beers and shots, we ended up kissing each other. We have been hanging out a lot lately, since this has happened, which was about two months ago. She is here because of circumstance, and she never wanted to move here, and she has been here about a year. She misses her friends and her family back home, and wants to move back to go to school next year. she has very few friends in this town, which makes the situation more difficult. I like her a lot, but she has told me that she has a boyfriend back home, and that she loves him, and she intends the carry on the long-distance thing as well as she can. She has also told me that I am important in her life, and she does not know what to do about the situation. I don't know what's going to happen when she visits Chile for 2 moths during the summer, or whether or not she will tell her boyfriend all this that has happened. I am scared that all my actions will lead to nowhere, but I feel I need to let her know how much I like her. I cherish every moment I spend with her, and that is why I really have not asked her about what she wishes to do, because it could potentially lead to her withdrawing from me. I know I deserve a fair answer, but I am also scared of losing her. Please Help..
A: Wow! You’re in a pickle!
She’s a taken woman. Does it bother you that if you date her, she may be off somewhere kissing another guy like she did with you? She has said that she has a bf and wants to stick with him so unless you convince her otherwise, you should back off. No one likes a disloyal girlfriend!!
Having said all that, she seems to like you and I can’t imagine the LD thing is really going to work out for her!
Here are your options:
You back off and see if she follows you.
You talk about the whole thing and hope you don’t push her away.
You go as is and see where the wind blows.
I like option 3. I know it’s hard but if you just stand in the sidelines until her other relationship fizzles, you’ve got the best chances. Plus you can be there to dust her off after the fall. But, don’t kiss her anymore! Just be the cool friend!
You could do option 2, but she seems committed to the LD guy and you may end up with nothing of her after a talk.
Let me know what you think!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Wednesday, April 18, 2007
Q: Hi, Dating Girl
The weirdest thing happened to me last week. As I answered my cell to an unknown number, I found out about somebody from a long time ago. He had been really thorough to find me. Ok, first time we met was 10years ago, last time we spoke was 7 years ago. I can't say that I forgot about him. I mean the mountain life was in his blood at that time and as far as i could make up from this one call, he remained single. He said he just wanted to meet me again, to talk, to eat (he's a great chef, I remember and a wine maker too). The usual stuff people do, you know. But I am falling for him, again, I think. Only problem now is that I am sort of steady with someone else. I Want to give in to this old feeling, see him again. But I also like the stability of things now. And let this intervention bleed to death. Oh, why am I in such a dilemma?
A: It sucks because you don’t want to have feelings for someone else when you’re in a stable relationship! Stable is good. Stable has longevity. Stable is stable!
Having said all that, the excitement of someone from 7 years ago contacting you is very tempting, intriguing and full of passion. But… is it just that and nothing more?
If it is just the thrill of it all, then politely decline. No good can come of it.
If you’re over/ done/ bored in your stable relationship and questioning it with or without this guy, then maybe this is the push you need to re-think everything.
Very tricky!! Hope this helps and for sure keep me posted!
Love the Madness,
DG
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The weirdest thing happened to me last week. As I answered my cell to an unknown number, I found out about somebody from a long time ago. He had been really thorough to find me. Ok, first time we met was 10years ago, last time we spoke was 7 years ago. I can't say that I forgot about him. I mean the mountain life was in his blood at that time and as far as i could make up from this one call, he remained single. He said he just wanted to meet me again, to talk, to eat (he's a great chef, I remember and a wine maker too). The usual stuff people do, you know. But I am falling for him, again, I think. Only problem now is that I am sort of steady with someone else. I Want to give in to this old feeling, see him again. But I also like the stability of things now. And let this intervention bleed to death. Oh, why am I in such a dilemma?
A: It sucks because you don’t want to have feelings for someone else when you’re in a stable relationship! Stable is good. Stable has longevity. Stable is stable!
Having said all that, the excitement of someone from 7 years ago contacting you is very tempting, intriguing and full of passion. But… is it just that and nothing more?
If it is just the thrill of it all, then politely decline. No good can come of it.
If you’re over/ done/ bored in your stable relationship and questioning it with or without this guy, then maybe this is the push you need to re-think everything.
Very tricky!! Hope this helps and for sure keep me posted!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Tuesday, April 17, 2007
Q: Dating Girl..
I've got a crux for you. A few summers ago a buddy of mine had a huge crush on a girl we worked with. That whole summer the hung out quite a bit and he was really unhealthily stuck on her as she wasn't interested in him more than being friends. I think perhaps some drunken kisses happened but nothing more than that. He claims they dated, she says not.
Fast forward to the present, it seems like they are friends and he's admitted that nothing is going to happen. Well recently I ran into her and we went out for a few drinks and hit it off. We've been on a couple of dates and I haven't had a chance to broach the subject with my buddy.
Out of the blue the girl got an e-mail from my buddy, basically saying I'm never going to speak to you again hope you find happiness. As far as I know he doesn't know that she and I have been on a couple of dates, but the timing of the e-mail is really strange as they hadn't talked for a few weeks.
Am I in the wrong here? Should I have talked to him about it before going out with her? I'd like to keep seeing her, get to know her. Did I cross some line in the 'guy code'?
A: You should talk to him. You should definitely let him know if he doesn’t already! Tell him you bumped into her and you’re kinda diggin her and you want to see more of her but don’t want to break any guy code.
He’ll probably pretend it’s fine and either keep talking to you or blow you off for a bit. Either way, if you’re honest, things should smooth out in a couple weeks.
Good luck!! Never easy, huh?!
Love the Madness,
DG
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I've got a crux for you. A few summers ago a buddy of mine had a huge crush on a girl we worked with. That whole summer the hung out quite a bit and he was really unhealthily stuck on her as she wasn't interested in him more than being friends. I think perhaps some drunken kisses happened but nothing more than that. He claims they dated, she says not.
Fast forward to the present, it seems like they are friends and he's admitted that nothing is going to happen. Well recently I ran into her and we went out for a few drinks and hit it off. We've been on a couple of dates and I haven't had a chance to broach the subject with my buddy.
Out of the blue the girl got an e-mail from my buddy, basically saying I'm never going to speak to you again hope you find happiness. As far as I know he doesn't know that she and I have been on a couple of dates, but the timing of the e-mail is really strange as they hadn't talked for a few weeks.
Am I in the wrong here? Should I have talked to him about it before going out with her? I'd like to keep seeing her, get to know her. Did I cross some line in the 'guy code'?
A: You should talk to him. You should definitely let him know if he doesn’t already! Tell him you bumped into her and you’re kinda diggin her and you want to see more of her but don’t want to break any guy code.
He’ll probably pretend it’s fine and either keep talking to you or blow you off for a bit. Either way, if you’re honest, things should smooth out in a couple weeks.
Good luck!! Never easy, huh?!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Monday, April 16, 2007
Q: How many roses do I have to get when I get them for my girlfriend. They’re so expensive!
A: You could do 1 and make it a romantic 1! Otherwise, do 6, 12, or anything higher. It’s the thought that counts! You can always do tulips or gerber daisies which are less.
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A: You could do 1 and make it a romantic 1! Otherwise, do 6, 12, or anything higher. It’s the thought that counts! You can always do tulips or gerber daisies which are less.
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DG
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Sunday, April 15, 2007
Q: So we dated for four years, then he popped the question. We were engaged about 6 months... just long enough to book the hall, and the caterer and find a dress. Everything seemed to be going fine. I had just graduated from college and started me new job. One day out of the blue he called us said we, "needed" to talk and then called it off with no warning. Its been about 4 months and he keeps alternating back and forth between, "oh my god I cant believe I let you go, give me another chance" and, "I dont think we should talk anymore". And he says things like, "I am not secure enought with myself, I wouldnt be ok if my wife made more money then me".How many chances is too many? Did he do it because I now have a good job and he's still not through school? How do you let someone go who you had imagined a future with? How do you start dating again (note* I have had one date in this 4 months... yes thats right only one).
A: So sorry about all that. Sounds terrible!
You should try your hardest to move on. I know it’s so much easier said than done, but you have to try your hardest. If he wants you bad enough, he’ll come back for keeps eventually, but you definitely shouldn’t wait around. He has serious doubts and you deserve better.
As for dating, hit the websites. Match.com, eharmony.com, etc. It’s a great way to get acclimated and take it slowly. You can chat anonymously so it’s less scary and when you’re comfortable, you’ll accept a date. Accept as many as you can to get back into dating life. The more practice, the better.
Eventually, you’ll be able to go on dates without thinking of your ex too much. Don’t stress if it takes a little while. Just keep going at it and you’ll fall in love all over again.
Let me know what you think!
Love the Madness,
DG
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A: So sorry about all that. Sounds terrible!
You should try your hardest to move on. I know it’s so much easier said than done, but you have to try your hardest. If he wants you bad enough, he’ll come back for keeps eventually, but you definitely shouldn’t wait around. He has serious doubts and you deserve better.
As for dating, hit the websites. Match.com, eharmony.com, etc. It’s a great way to get acclimated and take it slowly. You can chat anonymously so it’s less scary and when you’re comfortable, you’ll accept a date. Accept as many as you can to get back into dating life. The more practice, the better.
Eventually, you’ll be able to go on dates without thinking of your ex too much. Don’t stress if it takes a little while. Just keep going at it and you’ll fall in love all over again.
Let me know what you think!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Saturday, April 14, 2007
Q: DG-
So this cute girl randomly came up to me on campus the other day and started talking to me about climbing. She was saying she just got into it, and heard I was good and wanted see if I'd take her climbing. Of course I do! We exchanged numbers and all that jazz, but the only problem is I think she was wanting to take a bunch of friends along. Do you think she's interested, or just wants a rope gun? How can I tell her I don't want to spend a day throwing up a bunch of easy routes for 9 million people, but wouldn't mind to take a few people, especially her, out.
Thanks--
A: When you call, ask if it’s just her or if she’s planning on bringing other people. Don’t say it so she thinks you don’t want to be alone with her though. Very tricky! If she says she’s bringing 10 people, you should say you’ll have to go out with them twice because you can only take about 5 at a time. Still nice – you’re offering to go twice but you don’t have to have too many people.
You can tell her she has to come both times too!
Let me know how it goes.
Love the Madness,
DG
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So this cute girl randomly came up to me on campus the other day and started talking to me about climbing. She was saying she just got into it, and heard I was good and wanted see if I'd take her climbing. Of course I do! We exchanged numbers and all that jazz, but the only problem is I think she was wanting to take a bunch of friends along. Do you think she's interested, or just wants a rope gun? How can I tell her I don't want to spend a day throwing up a bunch of easy routes for 9 million people, but wouldn't mind to take a few people, especially her, out.
Thanks--
A: When you call, ask if it’s just her or if she’s planning on bringing other people. Don’t say it so she thinks you don’t want to be alone with her though. Very tricky! If she says she’s bringing 10 people, you should say you’ll have to go out with them twice because you can only take about 5 at a time. Still nice – you’re offering to go twice but you don’t have to have too many people.
You can tell her she has to come both times too!
Let me know how it goes.
Love the Madness,
DG
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Friday, April 13, 2007
Q: Dear Dating Girl,
I have a friend/roommate who is dating a girl that quite frankly makes him miserable. Normally I would rather take a cold shower than get involved in this type of situation in any way but a) she annoys the hell out of me and b) more importantly he keeps asking me and our other roommate for advice about what he should do. So far we have avoided being 100% up front with him about how we feel about her and the way she treats everyone. I'm sure he is going to ask what we think again here before too long and my question is should we really give him the advice he is asking for even if it is the straw that breaks the camels back and potentially causes them to stop seeing each other?
Thanks for the help!
A: If he’s asking because he’s questioning the relationship, then I would tell him the truth. If he’s asking because he wants to know if she’s annoying you, then I would tell an altered version of the truth (aka, a lie).
I know it’s easier said than done, but if he’s doubting the relationship, he may just need the extra push to get him going.
Hope that helps. Let me know!
Love the Madness,
DG
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I have a friend/roommate who is dating a girl that quite frankly makes him miserable. Normally I would rather take a cold shower than get involved in this type of situation in any way but a) she annoys the hell out of me and b) more importantly he keeps asking me and our other roommate for advice about what he should do. So far we have avoided being 100% up front with him about how we feel about her and the way she treats everyone. I'm sure he is going to ask what we think again here before too long and my question is should we really give him the advice he is asking for even if it is the straw that breaks the camels back and potentially causes them to stop seeing each other?
Thanks for the help!
A: If he’s asking because he’s questioning the relationship, then I would tell him the truth. If he’s asking because he wants to know if she’s annoying you, then I would tell an altered version of the truth (aka, a lie).
I know it’s easier said than done, but if he’s doubting the relationship, he may just need the extra push to get him going.
Hope that helps. Let me know!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Thursday, April 12, 2007
Q: Hey! I want to propose to my girlfriend on a backpacking trip. I want to do it properly and that includes asking her parents first. But time to do so is running out because I will be out of the country for a bit and than she is coming to visit me where I work in the summer for our trip. Would it be horrible if I put off the parental permission until after the trip (and after the proposal?), or am I overstepping traditional bounds?
Thanks so much!!!
A: For sure ask the parents first. Find time!! Even if you call them if you have absolutely not time, it’s better than asking after the fact.
Email and tell the engagement story please!!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Thanks so much!!!
A: For sure ask the parents first. Find time!! Even if you call them if you have absolutely not time, it’s better than asking after the fact.
Email and tell the engagement story please!!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Wednesday, April 11, 2007
Q: So I took your previous advice about not hitting on my roommate and actually started casually dating a few other guys, but they all pale in comparison. I recently stopped seeing the other guys because all I did when hanging out with them was think about the roommie. I don't know what to do to get my mind off of it and I think my friends may be getting sick of me talking about how great he is. What do I do?
A: You have tried really hard. Nice work on doing it for this long.
You could either give in and hope for the best or you could just keep on plugging away at dating other people and hoping one of them comes out with an A+.
Is he flirting back? Is he the relationship type? If you just start hooking up and then you see him bring other girls home, it’ll never work with him or with the house. If you see a relationship out of this with him, then I’d be ok with you testing it out.
Let me know what you think!
Love the Madness,
DG
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A: You have tried really hard. Nice work on doing it for this long.
You could either give in and hope for the best or you could just keep on plugging away at dating other people and hoping one of them comes out with an A+.
Is he flirting back? Is he the relationship type? If you just start hooking up and then you see him bring other girls home, it’ll never work with him or with the house. If you see a relationship out of this with him, then I’d be ok with you testing it out.
Let me know what you think!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Tuesday, April 10, 2007
Q: Dating Girl,
I have recently met this guy and we have so many things in common - hiking, running, music, movies, politics... We have chatted on the phone a few times and from my perspective the conversations have been great. He met a friend and I for dinner and a show a week ago and we seemed to have a great time. He was asking me questions, seemed to like my answers, gave me some friendly teases, he showed positive body language during the show, blah, blah, blah. I felt really positive about the whole thing, but he hasn't called since. I have not tried to contact him either, but I have made all of the contacts so far, so I felt like I needed to let him make the next move. Why the heck hasn't this guy called? Was I totally off-base with thinking that things went well? I also have found out that his old girlfriend has recently gotten engaged (they dated for 14 months and have been broken up since October) and that she will be working with him and he seems bothered by t his and has even thrown out the idea of getting a different job...Hmm. SI this other gal still in his head? Should I call him? How long should I wait? Or just wait it out?
A: Weird one. Sounds like it went so well too. But, if he hasn’t called you in a week, you either need to make a move or assume he’s not calling. You could give him one last call/email and see what happens. Leave a message if he doesn’t pick up but know that this is your last attempt. If he doesn’t call or email back, it’s over and you can move on. I’m all for the last effort though. If you do go out again, make a joke on the date that next time he has to call you!
Let me know what happens!
Love the Madness,
DG
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I have recently met this guy and we have so many things in common - hiking, running, music, movies, politics... We have chatted on the phone a few times and from my perspective the conversations have been great. He met a friend and I for dinner and a show a week ago and we seemed to have a great time. He was asking me questions, seemed to like my answers, gave me some friendly teases, he showed positive body language during the show, blah, blah, blah. I felt really positive about the whole thing, but he hasn't called since. I have not tried to contact him either, but I have made all of the contacts so far, so I felt like I needed to let him make the next move. Why the heck hasn't this guy called? Was I totally off-base with thinking that things went well? I also have found out that his old girlfriend has recently gotten engaged (they dated for 14 months and have been broken up since October) and that she will be working with him and he seems bothered by t his and has even thrown out the idea of getting a different job...Hmm. SI this other gal still in his head? Should I call him? How long should I wait? Or just wait it out?
A: Weird one. Sounds like it went so well too. But, if he hasn’t called you in a week, you either need to make a move or assume he’s not calling. You could give him one last call/email and see what happens. Leave a message if he doesn’t pick up but know that this is your last attempt. If he doesn’t call or email back, it’s over and you can move on. I’m all for the last effort though. If you do go out again, make a joke on the date that next time he has to call you!
Let me know what happens!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Monday, April 9, 2007
Q: If someone who’s sick uses your Purell, and then you use it, do you clean off the germs from the sick person that are on the Purell bottle or assume the Purelling your hands gets that off?
This a question for y’all, from me.
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This a question for y’all, from me.
Love the Madness,
DG
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Sunday, April 8, 2007
Q: Went out with a girl last week. She was totally hot but talked about marriage on the first date! Ugh! Is that a red flag?
A: If you’re not getting married anytime soon, then take the red flag. She’s obviously thinking about it. Don’t make it the make or break though. If everything else was great, go out again and see what happens. Just file that info!
Love the Madness,
DG
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A: If you’re not getting married anytime soon, then take the red flag. She’s obviously thinking about it. Don’t make it the make or break though. If everything else was great, go out again and see what happens. Just file that info!
Love the Madness,
DG
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Saturday, April 7, 2007
Congrats on the engagement Jon and Bitsy!!! (yes her name is Bitsy!)
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Friday, April 6, 2007
Q: A guy emailed me and I really don’t want to email him back. Can I just delete it or do I need to respond?
A: If you’ll never see him again and have 0 interest, you could delete. If you may have a bump in, just send a quick “Super busy at work but good to hear from you and take care.”
Love the Madness,
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A: If you’ll never see him again and have 0 interest, you could delete. If you may have a bump in, just send a quick “Super busy at work but good to hear from you and take care.”
Love the Madness,
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Thursday, April 5, 2007
Q: He said no more calls asking to see him. Does he really mean it or is that part of the game?
A: Assume he means it! If for some crazy reason it’s part of the game, he’ll come back when you stop calling. For now, move on and find someone who is waiting by the phone for your calls!
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A: Assume he means it! If for some crazy reason it’s part of the game, he’ll come back when you stop calling. For now, move on and find someone who is waiting by the phone for your calls!
Love the Madness,
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Wednesday, April 4, 2007
Q: Dear Dating Girl,
What should someone do to forget about an ex? I feel sad pretty much every day that I used to be in love. It's been a long time, I don't regret ending that relationship, I think I have moved on, and I'm in a great relationship now but it’s not too serious. I’m not in love or anything. The only thing is that I can't get the past out of my mind. So I feel like all the symptoms of being over him are there but at the root of it all maybe I'm not? I feel dishonest. Any thoughts would help.
A: Once you get in a new Serious relationship, you’ll find yourself thinking less and less about the ex. It’s basically just a void right now and you miss it being filled. It’s probably not really him, it’s just the lack of love.
The best way to get over an old habit is to replace it with a new habit! No rush, but get out there!!!
Hope that helps a little.
Love the Madness,
DG
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What should someone do to forget about an ex? I feel sad pretty much every day that I used to be in love. It's been a long time, I don't regret ending that relationship, I think I have moved on, and I'm in a great relationship now but it’s not too serious. I’m not in love or anything. The only thing is that I can't get the past out of my mind. So I feel like all the symptoms of being over him are there but at the root of it all maybe I'm not? I feel dishonest. Any thoughts would help.
A: Once you get in a new Serious relationship, you’ll find yourself thinking less and less about the ex. It’s basically just a void right now and you miss it being filled. It’s probably not really him, it’s just the lack of love.
The best way to get over an old habit is to replace it with a new habit! No rush, but get out there!!!
Hope that helps a little.
Love the Madness,
DG
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Tuesday, April 3, 2007
Q: Hey DG,
So - I have been dating my bf about 2 years we started dating when he was 23, now he's 25. Thing is... It was one thing when we started dating that he lived at home, but he told me he was intending on moving out of his mom's house in the spring... Now 2 springs later, he still lives at home and is claiming to be "saving money" and says he does not want to move out until he can buy a place and right now he doesn't know where he wants to buy so he says hes going to stay. I hate that he lives at home... Mainly because his house is not normal. He is Greek so they are always speaking Greek, which i don't know! Also it has horrible wall paper and all gold decorations and the furniture is from 1940- the beds are like wooden slabs and they have no food, no ice, 1 pillow each and one dim lamp in each room. I hate going there, and it is making me not even want to visit him.... Plus, how do they live there without noticing all of this??? Any suggestions on how i can handle this without just shouting my list of "hates" at him and ending it!! Any help would be appreciated!
A: I would talk with him. Don’t mention the house and the wallpaper and pillows! Just say you want more alone time and want to spend more time at your house. You love his family but you need adult time alone for the relationship to work. Say that you feel bad and don’t want to seem like you’re taking him from his family but you don’t know of another solution.
I feel your pain and I’m totally on your side but we have to make sure not to offend him and the fam.
Let me know how it goes!!!
Love the Madness,
DG
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So - I have been dating my bf about 2 years we started dating when he was 23, now he's 25. Thing is... It was one thing when we started dating that he lived at home, but he told me he was intending on moving out of his mom's house in the spring... Now 2 springs later, he still lives at home and is claiming to be "saving money" and says he does not want to move out until he can buy a place and right now he doesn't know where he wants to buy so he says hes going to stay. I hate that he lives at home... Mainly because his house is not normal. He is Greek so they are always speaking Greek, which i don't know! Also it has horrible wall paper and all gold decorations and the furniture is from 1940- the beds are like wooden slabs and they have no food, no ice, 1 pillow each and one dim lamp in each room. I hate going there, and it is making me not even want to visit him.... Plus, how do they live there without noticing all of this??? Any suggestions on how i can handle this without just shouting my list of "hates" at him and ending it!! Any help would be appreciated!
A: I would talk with him. Don’t mention the house and the wallpaper and pillows! Just say you want more alone time and want to spend more time at your house. You love his family but you need adult time alone for the relationship to work. Say that you feel bad and don’t want to seem like you’re taking him from his family but you don’t know of another solution.
I feel your pain and I’m totally on your side but we have to make sure not to offend him and the fam.
Let me know how it goes!!!
Love the Madness,
DG
Moosejaw.com
The Dating Girl and all of its related content are meant for entertainment purposes only and do not contain professional or other advice. The views, opinions, points of view and comments expressed by the Dating Girl are not intended to provide professional or other advice and are not those of Moosejaw Mountaineering and Backcountry Travel, Inc.
Monday, April 2, 2007
Q: Sometimes I like to go out but usually I’m a couch potato. My wife hates me for it. do I have to go out??! I’m tired!
A: You have to compromise. You for sure still get your couch time, but every once in a while you should go out with her. You should even surprise her with plans to go out once!
Hope that helps.
Love the Madness,
DG
Moosejaw.com
The Dating Girl and all of its related content are meant for entertainment purposes only and do not contain professional or other advice. The views, opinions, points of view and comments expressed by the Dating Girl are not intended to provide professional or other advice and are not those of Moosejaw Mountaineering and Backcountry Travel, Inc.
A: You have to compromise. You for sure still get your couch time, but every once in a while you should go out with her. You should even surprise her with plans to go out once!
Hope that helps.
Love the Madness,
DG
Moosejaw.com
The Dating Girl and all of its related content are meant for entertainment purposes only and do not contain professional or other advice. The views, opinions, points of view and comments expressed by the Dating Girl are not intended to provide professional or other advice and are not those of Moosejaw Mountaineering and Backcountry Travel, Inc.
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