Q: Dear Dg,
I met a girl from another country in drawing class. I asked her out, and she said yes. We were out with my friends , and after a few beers and shots, we ended up kissing each other. We have been hanging out a lot lately, since this has happened, which was about two months ago. She is here because of circumstance, and she never wanted to move here, and she has been here about a year. She misses her friends and her family back home, and wants to move back to go to school next year. she has very few friends in this town, which makes the situation more difficult. I like her a lot, but she has told me that she has a boyfriend back home, and that she loves him, and she intends the carry on the long-distance thing as well as she can. She has also told me that I am important in her life, and she does not know what to do about the situation. I don't know what's going to happen when she visits Chile for 2 moths during the summer, or whether or not she will tell her boyfriend all this that has happened. I am scared that all my actions will lead to nowhere, but I feel I need to let her know how much I like her. I cherish every moment I spend with her, and that is why I really have not asked her about what she wishes to do, because it could potentially lead to her withdrawing from me. I know I deserve a fair answer, but I am also scared of losing her. Please Help..
A: Wow! You’re in a pickle!
She’s a taken woman. Does it bother you that if you date her, she may be off somewhere kissing another guy like she did with you? She has said that she has a bf and wants to stick with him so unless you convince her otherwise, you should back off. No one likes a disloyal girlfriend!!
Having said all that, she seems to like you and I can’t imagine the LD thing is really going to work out for her!
Here are your options:
You back off and see if she follows you.
You talk about the whole thing and hope you don’t push her away.
You go as is and see where the wind blows.
I like option 3. I know it’s hard but if you just stand in the sidelines until her other relationship fizzles, you’ve got the best chances. Plus you can be there to dust her off after the fall. But, don’t kiss her anymore! Just be the cool friend!
You could do option 2, but she seems committed to the LD guy and you may end up with nothing of her after a talk.
Let me know what you think!
Love the Madness,
DG
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