Q: I just got out of a 1-year relationship where the guy and I were living together and everything. We broke up in the beginning of November. It didn’t end well: he got really weird and mean towards the end, so I had to break it off.
I have this friend who I have known this friend for a couple years and I’ve always liked him…he’s very cute, nerdy, and has a quirky personality which I adore! I don’t know if he knows how I feel or not. My friend is graduating from our college in May and I’ll be graduating in another year.
So, I have a few questions for you. I would like to have a light/breezy/casual fling-thing with my friend. I just want to continue our normal friend hang-out time and add making out and other fun stuff to the mix. I was too shy/immature to bring up a relationship with him when we first met (and he didn’t ask me out either) and now I don’t want a super-intense relationship. Just from being friends with him, I know that he’s not really up for serious relationships...nor does it make sense since he’s graduating. If it’s okay to say something to him about how I feel, I know I should wait a little while longer before I say anything…how long should I wait and how should I bring it up? I also want to communicate that I’d like something breezy and fun before he graduates without sounding blunt, awkward, or lecherous. It’s a weird situation, but what's a girl to do? I feel like I’d be missing out if I didn’t at least consider it or get some advice about it!
A: You’re trying to be breezy but in a very non-breezy way! You don’t really have a discussion about breezy, you just do it. You just go out and end up kissing! And then you do it again a week later. Once you start talking and dissecting, it becomes something more than breeze!
The only problem is if one of you wants more than the other. If you both want breezy, it’s perfect but if one of you starts to fall for the other, you’ll probably lose the friendship. But he’s graduating anyway so not a huge loss!!
I say go for it. If you want to play it safe, throw the idea out there as a joke and see how he takes it. “We should just be friends who kiss!” If you can tell he’s not into it then you laugh it off and move on.
Let me know how it goes.
Love the Madness,
DG
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